Coping With The High Cost Of Living

As we all know, the cost of living has skyrocketed to the extent that trying to cope with it is getting harder and harder. The law of supply and demand must be taken into consideration before we “jump the gun” and point a finger at those whom we accuse as being responsible for the downturn in our economy. Of course, mismanagement in certain areas has partially contributed to our failure in preventing such a state of affairs from getting out of hand, and may be attributed to greed in some respects, as well as a marked indifference to certain rules of moderation in the making of policies that seemed to have worsened the situation all the more. Continually complaining about it will do us no good. The alternative is that we must try to cope with our circumstances as best as we can.

There is a time to rejoice and a time to moan, but to merely moan and stop thinking as to how we can survive the impact of the rising cost of living, can hurt us all the more. All we can do is try to tailor our needs accordingly by doing the following:

Since the price of gasoline per gallon continues to skyrocket, we can, in some instances, travel by bus, and drive only when it is absolutely necessary. We can stop buying the things that we do not need and shop at markets that are cheaper and where we can purchase food at discounted prices. Instead of buying certain name brands of products, we can buy similar products that are manufactured by those that are less popular. There are stores, such as the 99-cent stores that carry a regular selection of fruits and vegetables, as well as other products that cost no more than 99 cents, instead of buying these from supermarkets and other stores where we have to pay much more. It is understandable that, under certain circumstances, people may have no other alternative but to shop in supermarkets, particularly when these are located in their neighborhood or when they are unable to explore other places because of certain handicaps. In this case, they may have to confine their purchases to products that they need and not buy the unnecessary things that they can do without.

Eating in expensive restaurants should be avoided. There are restaurants that are cheaper and easily accessible. In the case of a couple with children, cooking at home more often is advisable and, in fact, more conducive to our health and welfare.

Deprivation of the luxuries of life does not mean that we have to moan and groan continuously. Think of those outside our borders, such as the Third World countries where poverty and homelessness are much more pronounced than it is here. There are times when things happen unexpectedly, such as the present. We may feel depressed because the good, old days have suddenly passed us by. The truth is that when one area of the economy is adversely affected, other areas follow in its wake. Such a chain reaction can, indeed, be frustrating. Some day and hopefully soon, we will overcome the problem, as we have done so in the past, as we learn from our mistakes and failures.

A Carefully-Measured Dose Of Psychology

A boisterous argument that might result in injury or fatality can be averted by words of reason. A carefully measured dose of psychology has the power to counteract the simmering effect of sudden rage and gradually turn it to composure. When rage meets rage head-on, the consequence might be tragic. We can exercise psychological control over those that are subject to fits of anger. It can help bring both parties back to the level of rationality.

I was once invited to a party where two men started arguing. It began rather casually until it rose to a level of rage. The hostess appeared conspicuously distraught, but was reluctant to intervene. I, therefore, took it upon myself to try to pacify both men by using some psychology. “Come on, guys,” I began, as I stood up and planted myself squarely between them. “You’re both right,” I continued, “but let’s face it. It’s terribly embarrassing to the hostess,” The men suddenly appeared to calm down. I then decided to proceed a step further by holding and bringing their hands together in a firm shake.

Before I attempted to intervene, I did not anticipate that it would work successfully. Since then, I reinforced my conviction that a volatile situation can, indeed, be diffused if we try applying a little psychology.

The Open Road Of Truth


Truth is like an open road;
No traveler is misled
By signals he should follow
To safely forge ahead,
Cautioning him to slow down,
Stop or move with care,
And not to recklessly proceed
At speeds of grave despair.
Well should he negotiate
The curves of disbelief,
The crooked bends and hazards
Of unrelenting grief.
All signals and all signs of
Truth can never ever fail
When life is steered directly
Along its safety trail.

Autism, an Elusive Problem: Helpful Tips

Considering the fact that autism disorder varies widely, the old term, autism, has been changed to Autism Spectrum Disorder, or ASD.  It is not a disease, but a developmental brain disorder.  In spite of years of persistent research, it is estimated that more than 400,000 individuals in the United States are autistic.  Doctors, psychologists and scientists continue to be mystified by the fact that so far, researchers have not succeeded in pinpointing the cause of the problem.

The Autism Society of America has concluded that autism is the third most common developmental disability and is considered to be a more serious problem than Down syndrome, affecting children, particularly those between 1987 and 1992.   The incidence of autism continues to present a problem, though it has been reported that it is not as serious as previous years.  However, the conundrum in the way of ascertaining the root cause of the problem has not interrupted the progress of research in the direction of opening up avenues through which there might be a better knowledge of why the problem has so far eluded success.

Studies have shown that males are more likely to have the disorder than females.  Further studies have revealed that there are those that have a genetic disposition to autism, based on the fact that families with one autistic child have  a 5 percent chance of having another autistic child.  Symptoms appear when a child is observed as being hard of hearing and mentally retarded, although caregivers are explicit about the possibility that such symptoms might signify other conditions. 

Bear in mind, children that are autistic do not generally exhibit a marked difference, as far as behavior is concerned, but are diagnosed with the problem in early childhood, before the age of three, characterized by a lack of response to other people, including the environment.   Another aspect of autism shows a predisposition to indifference on the part of a child when he or she appears agitated  instead of responding to maternal love and affection, as well as crying most of the time when awake.

Children that are autistic cannot form attachments to others in the way most children do and are inclined to be particularly withdrawn, exhibiting abnormal behaviors, such as feet-pounding, constant rocking, or lacking any kind of communication whatsoever.  As time goes by, autistic children might become hyperactive, including biting and pounding on their bodies.

Based on the studies by the National Institute  of Neurological Disorders and Stroke,  autism could be diagnosed as follows:

l)   When there is no social play on the part of the child;

2)   Inability to make friends with peers;

3)   Inability to sustain any conversation;

4)   A propensity toward an unusual use of language;

5)    Lack of focus and absence or restriction of interests;

6)    Inflexibility as far as rituals or routine are concerned.

7)     Learning disabilities;

8)      Delay in speech development;

9)       A score of below 50 on IQ tests.

It is incumbent on parents or caregivers to seek the help of a neurologist, a psychologist, a developmental pediatrician, a speech therapist and a learning consultant, most of whom could train the autistic child to get on the right track of thinking and acting normally or near-normally so that, as time goes by, he or she might be fully or partially equipped with the tools whereby the demands of adulthood would not pose a perennial problem that might prove to be serious otherwise.

Helpful tips:

l)    Eat a high fiber diet;

2)   Abstain from wheat and wheat products;

3)    Exercise moderately;

4)     Deep breathing exercise.

In conclusion, the severe effects of autism could be appreciably mitigated with proper care and concern.

The Rose


The other day I saw a lovely rose

Poised gracefully o’er its fragile stem;

The dazzling, blinking sun flirtatiously,  

Appeared to make it blush a crimson red;

Fully abashed, yet ready to expose,

With neither nonchalance nor icy phlegm*

Its scented self, as so vivaciously,

It kept displaying its brightly-petaled head.

Today, the soil is bare and left alone

Without the beauty of its only rose;

I witness not but one expectant bed

Where down beneath the germs of love abide,

The source from which true beauty must be born,

Not to remain in any long repose,

But soon exhaust its energy instead,

Around itself with dignity  and pride.

In its own time and oft-beleaguered space, 

Each of its kind must play a common role

Within some garden of a yearning heart,

While in its own ability confide

To hold itself with undiminished grace,

Never failing to charm the human soul;

And so the rose is Nature’s ageless art

Which time itself could never brush aside.




No wider than the eye of a needle
Is the opening of circumstances,
Barely sufficient to allow
The threads of life inserted through
By the hands of joy and sorrow.

Life’s tapestries are spun with the threads
Of pain and pleasure, part smooth, part rough –
A motley of order and confusion
That we wear upon ourselves.

Simply True


If we confine love in a horrible cage,
It would lose its luster and tarnish with age;
If we value it, yet completely possess it,
We would do nothing but unfairly depress it.

Give love a palace, a jeweled crown,
Heights without purpose, it would still be down;
Nor would it flourish, its purpose not wait
Give it its freedom, before ‘t is too late.

If we hold love securely in the wrongful belief
That it could be saved from a handful of grief,
It would be unwise on our part for there is
The importance of feeling its genuine bliss.

Love needs its own space, its nourishment, too,
In a palace or cottage; either would do.